Modern Romance

Modern Romance

An Investigation

Downloadable Audiobook - 2015
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A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation's most popular and sharpest comedic voices. At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it's wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated? Some of our problems are unique to our time. "Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?" "Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!" "My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who's Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?" But the transformation of our romantic lives can't be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate. For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world's leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we've seen before.In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.
Publisher: [New York] :, Penguin Audio,, 2015
Edition: Unabridged
ISBN: 9780698402591
Characteristics: c
Additional Contributors: Klinenberg, Eric


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Jul 27, 2017

An entertaining audiobook with supplemental anecdotes that brings the content to life. Ansari doesn't tell us what's wrong with modern romance, or why one way or time of doing things is superior to another. Instead, he examines how the times have changed and how difficult it is to determine the best course of action. While this book doesn't tell you how to navigate your love life, it does provide information that might have you reevaluate how you go about romance. The audiobook was about 6 hours long, but it went by fast and I enjoyed every moment of it.

romance_nerd Jul 04, 2017

A hilarious audiobook to listen to. The content was interesting but listening to Aziz Ansari read this was truly the best part.

May 31, 2017

I wouldn't say this was an amazing book in regards to content, but in regards to audiobooks I thought it was one of the best. Aziz's commentary throughout the book was both funny and relatable. I liked how he acknowledged that he was reading the book, I think that made it less cut and dry compared to others books. The content seemed like common sense, but I found the topics on monogamy pretty interesting. It's a book worth checking out.

AL_MARYA Feb 10, 2017

Comedian Aziz Ansari teams up with sociologist Eric Klinenberg to explore today’s complex dating scene. Their observations are both interesting and amusing.

Jan 11, 2017

I have to admit, when I pick up a book written by a "celebrity" I immediately and skeptically assume there's a ghostwriter. But although Aziz Ansari's co-author and research partner Eric Klinenberg is an NYU sociologist, I'm convinced Ansari actually did much of this very entertaining writing. The two spent two years conducting focus groups, researching and interviewing about individuals' and couples' use of modern and cutting-edge technology with respect to finding, maintaining and ending romantic relationships, and the results are at once unsurprising, intriguing and somewhat worrying. There are a number of laugh-out-loud passages -- recommended!

What happens when a comedian and a sociologist team up to figure out what the deal is with today's dating scene? This hilarious, compelling, interesting, fun book. Ansari interviews people young & old from all over the world put a finger on how we find our soulmates.

The Audiobook, which Ansari reads himself, is especially good!

Maggie Mae

VaughanPLKasey Nov 09, 2016

Modern Romance is a book about the contemporary dating scene, where more and more people are meeting online, and even when we do meet in person, we do most of our communicating through the internet or our phones, by writing instead on talking. This is a major topic of Ansari’s stand-up, also, and so I thought I had a pretty good idea of what I was in for.

But the book is not just an extension or a translation of Ansari’s stand-up material. It is actually the culmination of a multi-year sociological study that Ansari undertook with Eric Klinenberg, examining modern dating behaviours, comparing them to the way dating worked for older generations, and taking in quantitative and qualitative data, all coming together into some very real perspectives and advice on navigating the world of modern romance.

Ansari takes you with him through the research process and findings, speaking always in layperson terms, and injecting his personal brand of humour into the discussions in natural and relatable ways.

It’s a great book, an engaging and enjoyable read, and one that just might make you learn something!

PinesandPrejudice Oct 10, 2016

I enjoyed Aziz's humor and his takes on this subject. The science was interesting but I felt like a lot of the findings and advice were common sense. The best part was listening to Aziz and his hilarious takes on some of the subjects.

Oct 02, 2016

This was so well researched. It really explored modern dating in a very scientific approach. The humor added to the understanding of the science and data by making it personal.

Sep 29, 2016

Want something funny? Want something informative? Listen to this! Aziz Ansari co-wrote and narrated the book, so you know it's good.

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AL_MARYA Feb 10, 2017

But we want more than love. We want a lifelong wingman/wingwoman who completes us and can handle the truth, to mix metaphors from three different Tom Cruise movies.

Today, if you own a smartphone, you’re carrying a 24-7 singles bar in your pocket.

Apr 12, 2016

"Like most fedora wearers, he had a lot of inexplicable confidence."

Apr 12, 2016

"I don't think we thought, 'Well, there are another twelve doors or another seventeen doors or another four hundred and thirty-three doors' . . . We saw a door we wanted, and so we took it."

Aug 03, 2015

The most popular kind of establishment in the relationship replacement industry is the hostess club, which is basically the latest variation of a long-standing Japanese tradition where men go to a nice bar-type atmosphere and pay women to provide intimate personal service in a romantic but not explicitly sexual way. The women are like modern-day geishas: They light the men's cigarettes, serve them drinks, and listen attentively to their conversation, doing more or less what an ideal Japanese wife or girlfriend would do. Lots of men stop by these clubs after work, either alone or in groups... Women also go to host clubs, which provide the same service: outgoing men who converse and have drinks with them. Again, this does not lead to sex; it's purely for companionship. These women are basically paying to hang out with nonherbivore men for a while.


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Feb 19, 2017

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